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40 thoughts from 40 years, aka an introduction to dying living.

this is entirely off the cuff as it comes so.. 

1. give everything you have then give just a bit more. that extra bit is where the magic happens. 
2. love isn’t the only thing in the world but it pushing your nose through long scented hair on a sunday morning is a pretty amazing gift. 
3. i have $0.83 in my bank account. but i’m rich in ways i can’t even give you words for. money matters as far as giving you options but if you choose everything there’s usually enough free stuff in life to keep you filled past full. 
4. no one belongs here more than you. you have as much right to this earth and everything on it as any other human. 
5. it took me about 38 1/2 years of toiling at the long end of neurosis and a hyper active brain to work out what my life is about. when you’re 25 and you think it’s been too hard, that you will never work it out, find a way to hold on. 
6. it will be okay, i promise
7. i’ve loved three women in my life and three women have loved me. if you work the math thats a lot of not-love in between. you need that space in between. 
8. have at least one kid if you can. no one will ever love you like your kid will and we all need that experience to really understand how important people can be to each other. a kid will teach you everything you need to know about love. 
9. good friends are hard to come by. close friends you can trust with anything are next to impossible. do not let anything you feel in a particular moment damage or destroy these rare relationships. no man is an island, but some are peninsulas. 
10. find something larger than yourself, then make your life about that something. this is probably the most important thing you can do to find sustained happiness and a sense of self that withstands what comes. 
11. don’t trust people who haven’t done #10. their egos will eventually turn on you because their ego is the only thing they really love or know. 
12. be fluid. take the shape of whatever container your life becomes and hold on for the ride. 
13. if you find yourself saying “that’s just not me” it’s time to re-evaluate what exactly you think me might be anyways.
14. when you care what people think, they own your ass. period. 
15. everything has been done, and redone, and remixed and mashed up to hell and back. that’s the what but not the how. the how is where you can live. 
16. your body is happiest when you use it to its fullest. regardless of what your lazy mind says. 
17. digestion. man. 
18. the world is not out to get you. i swear. i know this because i know the world doesn’t really give a shit about you. 
19. you’ll probably spend the first half of your life undoing what your parents did, then the next half working out who you are without that, then the next half actually being who you are. wait.
20. beautiful people attract universally but are rarely universally attractive. 
21. worry less. 
22. always drink a cubic shit-tonne of water. your cells are aquatic. 
23. if you ask for twice what you want, need or can take and only get a quarter of what you asked for, you’re still halfway there. 
24. everyone needs someone who will stand by them regardless of what happens. be that person for someone. 
25. boobs are the single greatest invention ever.
26. freckles are second.
27. ruzz is third.
28. be less afraid. 
29. everything you think you know is just something you think you know. ideas. 
30. small people will always try to cut you down. don’t let them.
31. fuck life with passion, not apathy. 
32. it’s okay to be a misfit if you surround yourself with misfits (hi tumblr!)
33. don’t fuck around with people’s hearts for fun, or play. life’s hard enough.
34. don’t ever forget you’re just a recently domesticated animal. 
35. demand more of yourself; every single day.
36. give up on the intellect. life happens in the body not the mind.
37. learn where the damned g spot is, for real.
38. if your ego is happy with you something is drastically out of whack. 
39. focus your entire life on one thing and don’t quit. magic will happen.
40. be strong